Happiness Is A Journey Not A Destination!
Most people spend their lives waiting for happiness. They cling to the idea that as soon as they get that job, or as soon as they lose those last few pounds, then the gates will open and happiness will come rushing in. But happiness isn’t something that just happens, it’s something you need to actively pursue. True happiness doesn’t come from wealth or beauty or status or anything external, it comes from within. In other words, “Happiness doesn’t come to you, it comes from you.
Relying on other people to make you happy will leave you endlessly disappointed. You will depend and expect other people to give you what only you can give yourself. If you are not happy with you, there is no way you can really make someone else happy. If you’re miserable, then everyone around you will be miserable just like you. “MISERABLE”!
You are the only on who can control how happy you are. You are the only one who can control how you feel about yourself. To find true happiness comes when you stop blaming people for “making” you feel a certain way.
True happiness can also come when helping others by your good deeds. There is a sense of fulfilment you get when you see a smile on someone’s face because of something you did. Making other people happy will bring that same happiness back to you in return. Now I know some of you are thinking the same way I used to think “I am tired of making everybody else happy and not getting the same happiness back in return”, Well let me say this to you. Check who you are trying to make happy. (Take note of the word “trying”) The person you are so called “trying” to make happy is probably not happy about themselves and undeserving of your happiness, they are just using you for your gifts, your talents, your money or your strength. Understand, there is a difference between making people happy and being someone’s pacifier.
Happy people feel good about themselves and about life and want to make other people feel good as well. Doing acts of kindness actually causes a chemical reaction that makes you feel really good. You can do little things, like smiling at strangers or giving up your seat on the subway for the elderly, or big things like volunteer work.
There’s a saying that goes: Happiness isn’t having what you want, but wanting what you have. Most of us are trained to look at what’s wrong in our lives, rather than what’s right. We yearn for a better job, a better relationship, better friends, a better body–we focus more on what’s missing and overlook what’s right there in front of us.